If you are thinking of having children at some point, you will probably want to know the answer to the following question: ‘what is the best age to get pregnant’?. The answer is by no means a simple one, and whatever age you decide to have children at will affect your life and your child’s life for many years to come. This decision is one you will have to think about carefully. The following factors are some that will help you to make this important decision.
What are the physical affects?
From the time that a women starts to menstruate, she is physically able to have a child. However, this does not mean that her body is truly ready for carrying a child. Up until your twenties, your bones will continue to grow and move. Having a child affects the calcium that your bones receive and also adds weight that your bones need to support.
Having a child before you are in your twenties could affect the health of your bones. If you are considering having a child later in life, you should keep in mind that from your late thirties onwards, the process does get riskier. Statistically, there are more complications in births as a women heads towards her forties and beyond. It is not impossible to have a baby this late, but you should definitely consult your doctor if you are thinking about going this route.
Your finances concerning the best age to get pregnant
Your financial situation will probably get better and you will become more able to support yourself and a family as you get a bit older. From the late twenties into the thirties, most women become more independent and better able to pay bills and have more excess money every month.
So actually the best age to get pregnant for you could simply be during a time when you are financially stable.
If you have a baby too young, you will more than likely have to worry about paying bills and keeping up to date with your expenses. As a younger person, it is unlikely that you are earning enough to afford a full time nanny and even the costs of sending your child to a crèche are very high. If you have a partner who is sharing the costs with you, it is unlikely that you or your partner is earning enough to enable one of your to quit your job to be a full time parent. This is much more likely when you are in your thirties or forties.
Children are very expensive. Doctor’s appointments, the hospital stay, your newborn baby’s care and any other medical care you might need will cost you a lot of money. From there, you will have to buy a pram, a crib and a myriad of other bits and pieces.
Crèche fees, pre-school fees, school fees and clothing, food and medical care also add to the list. Beyond that, your child may be interested in playing the piano or horse riding and these hobbies will cost you a lot of money.
Having a child means putting their needs before yours on absolutely every matter. Every desire, need or want of yours will be put on the backburner and you will have to concentrate everything you have on your child’s needs, wants and desires. This requires a lot of maturity and maturity usually comes with age. Waiting until you are emotionally ready to have a child is a very wise choice.
Your relationship with your child
Many people believe that having a child when you are younger means that you will be able to be friends with your child as your age gap will not be that far apart. However, this idea is a flawed one. When you have a child, you should aim to be a good parent and not a good friend. Confusing the two roles can lead to problems down the line and you should not let this idea affect your decision.